As women we are often the center of people's comments and attentions regarding our outfit, what we wear, how we look. If these are positive comments this could sometimes be appreciated, but when people constantly focus on the way we look, rather than what we say, do, how we act and what we achieve, this creates an unhealthy consciousness of our appearance, obsession on what we think we should wear and how we are perceived.
Numerous times in my career have I myself been the subject of people's comments, and it has taken me many years to feel confident enough to be true to my style, my creativity, my taste and to feel that what really matters is what I say and achieve, being a good colleague and manager, and not the way I dress.
I have seen so many of my friends and colleagues who are brilliant, empathetic, smart and intelligent, commenting themselves on their appearance: "I don't feel comfortable in these trousers, my thighs look so big", "I would love to wear heals but I am too tall", "green is really not my color", "do you think this skirt is too tight", etc. etc. etc. Why is it that we feel we have to excuse ourselves and for the way we dress. For the way we want to dress to be comfortable. That we believe that we have to wear certain clothes to fit in, to be accepted and to be taken seriously. As a woman we feel we cannot be too sexy, too cute, too boring, too old fashioned, too stylish.. Basically, we try to be as little as possible of everything. This is not the way forward. You want to be comfortable. Elegant. True to your style and express who you are. Be Yourself. And if you have people commenting on the way you look or dress, firmly but nicely respond to that by pointing out that what you wear or the way you look is not relevant and that you would kindly ask them to refrain from further comments on your appearance. Period.
Good luck. I am here for you if you need me.