I have seen so many of my friends and colleagues who are brilliant, empathetic, smart and intelligent, commenting themselves on their appearance: "I don't feel comfortable in these trousers, my thighs look so big", "I would love to wear heals but I am too tall", "green is really not my color", "do you think this skirt is too tight", etc. etc. etc. Why is it that we feel we have to excuse ourselves and for the way we dress. For the way we want to dress to be comfortable. That we believe that we have to wear certain clothes to fit in, to be accepted and to be taken seriously. As a woman we feel we cannot be too sexy, too cute, too boring, too old fashioned, too stylish.. Basically, we try to be as little as possible of everything. This is not the way forward. You want to be comfortable. Elegant. True to your style and express who you are. Be Yourself. And if you have people commenting on the way you look or dress, firmly but nicely respond to that by pointing out that what you wear or the way you look is not relevant and that you would kindly ask them to refrain from further comments on your appearance. Period.